Flat Sweet Flat

I'm back in the flat I share with A today. He's coming back from seeing family tomorrow. So, I'm a little emotional. I burst into tears as soon as I entered the flat. I was surrounded by happy people today and the girl that I sat next to on the train was super skinny. I kept admiring how slim her legs were. Amazing! I swung back and to between these happy people making me want to hurl and feeling privileged that I had glimpsed a brief moment of joy in their lives. No matter how bitter and twisted I am right now and no matter how much I crave moments like that I concluded the latter. If these moments are not a reality for me at the moment at least I can enjoy seeing others experience something I desire so much right now. I'm glad there is happiness out there. It makes it more tangible.

I met a dear family friend today. He is over from Canada coaching one of the Canadian teams. His wife ordered some jewellery so I popped over to see him and deliver the pieces. It was lovely to see him but after the brief catch up chit chat he wangled another ticket to the rugby game the team were going to watch that night. I was introduced to everyone which was nice but I felt awkward. My people skills are not good. I need to improve on this. I think maybe I'm too closed, quiet, unable to talk about trivial things.

One point I listed the other day under things I hate about myself was my inability to make friends. A girl once summed it up in a nutshell for me when I mentioned this to her. She said she was surprised but at the same time she though I was one of the nicest people she's met but never really felt the need to be friends with me. Maybe my barriers make me too bland. Note to self: try to make at least one friend (FOR THE LOVE OF OLIVES!!!).

I promised a photo showing my hair in proper light and not salon straight so here it is:

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Day 18 of the 30 Day Song Challenge is a song I wish I heard on the radio. It was a close call between Ghost by Gregory and the Hawk and Kilojules by Freelance Whales. To try to keep things non repetitive I chose Ghost by Gregory and the Hawk. 

I'll apologise in advance if I don't blog tomorrow. A's return may yield drama. That was a lie. It will yield drama... Can't wait.... (that was a rather heavy dose of sarcasm)

Love always, B x

Hair Transformation Complete!

Here are the pictures of before and after my hair transformation... *cringe* The second one is me just after the lovely hair people down the road straightened the life out of it. This will not be how my hair looks all the time so I'll post a more realistic picture tomorrow. I'll be sure to take a photo during the day so you can see the colour properly. Apologies for the lack of makeup but I never ware any.

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With the exception of the hair my the only exciting thing that happened today was the (late) arrival of my brother's birthday present; a Nintendo Entertainment System. You know, the retro original? My Grandpa bought one for my Dad when we lived in Canada. We always really struggled to get by so our Nintendo was amazing. We used to play Ninja Turtles II on it as kids so I managed to get hold of that too. My brother was thrilled!

On to the song of the day!

Day 17 of the 30 Day Song Challenge is a song you hear often on the radio... I don't listen to the radio so this song is one that was on BBC Radio 2 over the summer when I worked as a dental receptionist. The radio was on all the time. That job was the worst job I ever had because the practice owner who was my boss was such a nasty piece of work. Really ungrateful and made everyone feel like a piece of *£@#. Oddly when I left he thanked me for keeping him grounded when he was stressed. I'd hate to see him ungrounded! I guess I was in a unique position of not caring if he fired me so had no qualms about telling him to stop having temper tantrums like a 2 year old. It was obvious no one stuck up for themselves or each other in that place

So finally, the song is Pack Up by Eliza Doolittle.

Love always, B x

Phase 1 of Hair Transformation Complete

My hair has been dyed! I like it too. In fact it's exactly what I wanted almost black but with a deep cherry tint. My dad is going to have a shock because now I look even more like him! All I have to do is get it cut and my magical hair transformation will be complete. My spirits have been lifted. Oh AND I sold some of my jewellery online today. Maybe I'll be able to pay the bills after all. Wouldn't that be something?

I'm glad quite a few of you liked the list idea and even more so that some of you had done one of your own. It was a great exercise to do and I hope everyone that did it got as much out of it as I did.

This is the last day of having 2 songs on my post. I'm back on track as of tomorrow. Huzzah!

Today it's day 15 and 16 of the 30 Day Song Challenge.
Day 15 is a song that describes you and that's Attractive Today by Motion City Soundtrack.

Day 16 is a song I used to love but now hate. The song is It's Been Awhile by Stained.

Love always, B x

Love and Hate in Fives

Food wise today was OK if I'd have gone for the run I was planning. I thought I had running gear here at my parent's house but turns out I was wrong. Grumble.

I came across a post by ELLE-usive Dream in which she lists 5 things she loves and 5 things she hates about herself so I'll be doing the same. I need a bit of positive reflection and constructive criticism. Just what the shrink ordered. If I'm honest I'm feeling a little melancholy this evening. I was looking at the pictures of my friend's sister's wedding and it was sad to think that that sort of happiness is so far away for me right now. Until then I work on obtaining happiness elsewhere in my life. Like with a new hair style and colour. I'm a little more excited about this than I should be I think. 24 and I've never dyed my hair. It's a big deal! I'll put some before and after photos up for you guys to get some shizzles and giggles from it.

5 things I love about myself:

1) My brain - It acts like a sponge. It loves information and has made me the environmental scientist/ecologist I am today. Thank you brain!

2) I can correct people -This one is odd. I used to smile and nod politely if someone was talking complete crap but now I don't. I'm not bitchy about it but equally if they're wrong I'll tell them. I expect the same treatment if I'm wrong.

3) My athletic ability - I've been good at every sport I've tried and been on every school and uni team I've tried out for; basketball, ultimate Frisbee, volleyball, badminton, swimming, rugby and track and field.

4) My height - I'm not super tall but I love being of the taller category at 5ft 9".

5) My shoulders - They're broad, strong and always look like they belong to a thinner person.

5 things I hate about myself:

1) I hate that I can make myself feel unintelligent though I know I'm not.

2) I hate that I can't seem to make a single friend even when I try. Too many barriers maybe? Beats me.

3) I hate how I let my insecurities run my life sometimes. I'm getting better at controlling them but I still have a way to go yet.

4) I hate my lack of self discipline. It's not all the time but I'm good at procrastinating.

5) I hate my body. But that will change... Hopefully. ^_^


Now on to the 30 Day Song Challenge:

Day 13 is a song that is a guilty pleasure and that song will be Sincerely Me by New Found Glory. I like them. They're funsies.

Day 14 is a song that no one would expect me to love. It's Play That Funky Music by Wild Cherry. I defy you to not get your groove on.

Love peace and happiness to all of you butterfly beauties, B x

Phoenix

Last night was terrible. Two hours of sleep, crying, sore eyes and general ick. I'm feeling rough and am experiencing surges of anxiety. Blegh! A and I have been e-mailing as it allows us to say everything we want in a calm collected manner. Besides that I can't talk properly in my house without everyone knowing and going into the street to chat isn't an option either. I'm not fond of the neighbours seeing me as a blubbering lunatic.

I only gained 0.2lbs after my stupid binge yesterday so I'm relieved. Today was ok. I didn't much feel like eating and when I did it was only small portions. Unfortunately I was craving comfort food but couldn't stomach much of anything.

Tomorrow is a new day. Whatever happens with my relationship is going to happen and is out of my hands. It's up to A to decide if I'm worth the trouble. From the second I wake tomorrow I'm putting all my energy into me. I will be happy. I'm going to lose weight like a trooper, I'm going to be new, rising from the ashes like a beautiful phoenix. I ordered some eco hair dye today. I've always been too chicken to do it but I'm tired of being wallpaper. I want to express my inner self and do things I've always wanted to. I'll also be changing my hair style. I want a change both inside and out. If this relationship fails I'll be a million times more awesome for the next guy. It'll be A's loss.

I'll let you know how it pans out but they'll be no more wallowing about it from now on. It makes repetitive reading and I'm even starting to bore myself.

Day 11 of the 30 Day Song Challenge is a song from your favourite band. I have to admit their recent stuff is a but rubbish. Lyrically they've plummeted but I still think their older stuff is great.
The song is Mr. Chainsaw by Alkaline Trio.

Day 12 is a song from a band I hate... Ummm.... Hate is a strong word but I don't like Creed. I don't like the singer's voice, his face is a bit slapable and there's something cheese on toast about them.
It's Sacrifice by Creed.

Tune in tomorrow for positivity (finally!) and thinspo from yours truly.

Love always, B x

The Mask Comes Off

I comfort ate today. After losing another 1lb. Stupid girl.

My hard exterior has suddenly crumbled around me and my mask has been removed. Here lies a seldom seen individual. She's vulnerable. Feeling like her love and best friend is falling through her hands like tightly grasped sand. She's suddenly terrified. Wants to be held close and told she is beautiful, loved and safe. Instead a torrent of text. He doesn't know. He loves me but needs to think... She faces rejection and answers with "if you need to think maybe this is the end". Then nothing. Perchance he is reveling in the cliche. Perchance she is indeed not enough. That's how she's always felt.

 

The Truth Will Out

I told A everything. I told him I checked his e-mails, that I know he lied to me about L, that I know he told his closest friends he wasn't sure he wanted to be in a relationship and that I don't trust him (I think he knew that already). I had to clarify that it isn't that I didn't trust his fidelity it's that I don't trust him to tell me things that are important to us both, to the well being of us. He's not as honest and open about relationship stuff as I am. I expect the same transparency I show him especially after 4+ years.

That was 3 hours ago. I haven't heard from him since. I don't blame him. He was mad, said the not knowing if he should be in a relationship was a reflection of his mood at the time (yeah...) and not an ongoing one. I'm feeling more and more distant from him. The future we were working on building is getting blurry as a result of my paranoia and his disregard for me that I seem to find at every turn recently.What happens next is any one's guess. I told him I wasn't returning from my family home until he has decided exactly what he wants. He can be without me for a while to take stock of what's happened recently. We both need perspective and a time out.

*breath*

In weight related news I've lost another pound. The scales here are digital and add a few pounds compared to the ones I usually use. They now read 171.4lbs as opposed to the 172.4lbs they did last weekend.
I've had less than 200kcal during the day so a small meal should put me no higher that 1000kcal (worst case scenario).

I've been making replicas of some of the jewellery pieces I have on sale in the shop I was talking about yesterday. I can only ever make a very limited number at one go as I source the beads from co-operatives in Uganda and I never know what colours I'll be getting. The beads are fantastic, beautifully African and are all eco and ethically traded.
Tell me what you guys think. Don't worry about being critical as it's the only way I'll improve. I told a girl the other day that her stuff was nice but needed more variation in her designs. She literally did the same bracelet in different colours which isn't usually a problem but she has over 100 pieces on her website and NOTHING stands out. On top of that her prices were comparable to mine and  none of her materials benefited those less fortunate or the planet... The mind doth boggle! She was not impressed with my honesty. I was even nice about it and commented on the things that I did like. Some people want to surround themselves with yes men and sycophants I guess.

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And finally....

Day 9 of the 30 day Song Challenge is a song you can dance to. When I say dance I mean do a lap dance to. Well, I can but I totally chickened out so no one has ever seen it. Ha ha ha!

The song is You Are by Pear Jam.

Day 10 is a song that makes you fall asleep. I don't actually know of one that makes me fall asleep but I know I can sleep when listening to this song.

It's Tres by Pinback.

Love always, B x